Stay (FMF Link UP)

Linking up with The rules are: set a timer and free write for five minutes on word prompt, then share.

Stay… I have a tendency to want to drop in quick and leave. Do my mission and go. It is not intentional, it just something in me. Maybe not wanting to bother someone, not wanting to make a big deal over why I am there, but something I have found over the years is that many people want you to stay. “Please stay, don’t go”. Not a polite please stay, but a deeper plea. There is power in staying with someone. When there has been a tragedy or heartache many times we avoid going to the person.  We aren’t sure what to say, or how to help. We are afraid of saying the wrong thing, but most people just want someone to stay. There is power in presence. Being present. No words needed. Just staying says, “I am here for you. I see you and I love you”.

I am reminded of a story my friend told me. After her daughter died at 18 months old, this woman she did not know well would come over, bring her knitting, and just sit in the corner and be present. She would stay for an hour or two. No talking, just there to listen if my friend wanted to talk. No expectations, just being present. My friend told me at first she felt very uncomfortable, and then this woman became a deep blessing to her, and a comfort in a time when there really were no words. The gift of time and the power in staying were gifts my friend needed without knowing it.

In this season I want to do, and help, and fix, but what most people really need is for me to stay with them, to go the distance, to remind them that I am here and willing to stay for as long as they need, no words, no gifts, no actions needed. Just staying with, presence. Today as my heart continues to ache for many and with many, I ask God to show me who to stay with, and how to stay with them. Sometimes we are the “Jesus with skin on” that they are looking for and needing to keep going.



6 thoughts on “Stay (FMF Link UP)

  1. Not many would ask me to stay,
    they’re better off, me gone,
    for most I know have now heard say
    of me, Luis, and Juan,
    and the time that we attended
    a well-bred fancy-ball-affair;
    what happened then was not intended,
    but all remember who were there
    the horses that we liberated
    from their barn just down the hill,
    and ballroom we infiltrated,
    meaning fun (and never ill!)
    but no-one now can quite forget
    what shod hooves do to new parquet.

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  2. Getting a little teary eyed over here. I have experienced that same power of stay. When my dad died I remember my cousins coming to my mom’s house and just hanging out. It was such a beautiful expression of solidarity and love. May we have the wisdom and courage to do the same.

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